Domestic Violence Recovery

“Abuse is being given one horizon to see.

Escaping abuse is understanding there wasn’t only one horizon.”- BBR

Traveling toward your bright future and building a future with those who care about you is what you deserve.

The lifeline resources below are external links to existing national domestic violence support and awareness programs to report and drive out domestic violence.

The messaging is the same: Find your voice and say something. There is someone to listen.

Ready to leave an abusive relationship?

Resources for Survivors

Find a list of shelters and resources by state, zip code or service.

Suicide and Crisis Lifeline – Dial 988

Addiction Recovery Information

NOMORE.org

Advocate for others and strive for:

What is Narcissistic Gaslighting & What are the Impacts of Neglect?

Gaslighting is the intentional misdirection of any person’s thoughts from what they perceive.

A list of examples of verbal manipulation follow and the impacts on someone’s self-perception.

Impact of non-physical abuse: Lack of confidence, low motivation to socialize, decline is school performance, adverse childhood experiences

• “You shouldn’t feel that way” – Domestic violence is a form of oppression
• “You’re taking it wrong” – PTSD can develop from prolonged exposure to unhealthy environments
• “I didn’t mean it” – On average it takes women of abuse 7 attempts to leave an abusive relationship.
• “Why be so sensitive?” – Domestic violence is a crime. It is not allowed for anyone to legally physically harm or harass another person.
• “You just want attention!” – Children experience higher Adverse Childhood Experience Scores when witnessing and experiencing Domestic Violence.

Signs of Abuse in Youth – Emotional Abuse is abuse

• Failing to provide emotional support
• Restricting social interactions
• Berating, belittling, endangering and degrading a child and denying it (gaslighting)

Advocate and recognize different forms of hidden abuse below.

Physical signs of abuse may not always be present. Uncover the abuse by not dismissing or minimizing the person.

Listen to the person who is reporting the abuse. Hear their words and write them down. Reassure them appropriate adult action will be taken with the authorities. Don’t confront the abuser. Follow up to demonstrate commitment to action.